I get that. I’m the mother of an adult, and I know exactly what it’s like to say terribly harsh things–things you know your kid will be irritated with you for saying–that you just have to say (like, y’know, write the Walking Dead post already, dammit). Parents say painful things out of love.
You know what parents also say? Loving things. Sometimes we even combine them.
Here are a bunch of things that Katherine Olson didn’t say to her younger daughter:
- You deserve better.
- Ask for what you want. Tell him marriage or nothing.
- Don’t settle. He’ll marry you if you don’t sell yourself short.
- Don’t worry about being alone. You’re loveable and someone will offer you the whole package.
- You’ll find someone who will give you everything.
- Don’t worry, Peaches, you won’t be alone.
- How can someone as lovely as you are be so afraid of being alone?
- No matter how lonely you feel, you have your family.
Nope. She didn’t say any of those things. She said “Get a cat.”
I get what Matt is saying about a parent’s messages to a child, but I also get the utter contempt with which this message was delivered. When Peggy expressed a fear she would otherwise be alone, Katherine essentially agreed with her. Is it any wonder, then, that Peggy is so afraid, and so willing to settle?